God ~ 神

*in a particular office in Singapore*
colleague: yl ar, are you a Christian?
me: nope.
colleague: how come you are always so happy har??
me: ermmm, coz i choose to be happy??
colleague: you always work late but always very bubbly lei. you so good U noe. merry, humble and hardworking. too bad you dont have God in your heart.
me: ??? *stunned speechless by the colleague’s tactless insensitive remarks.*

i almost had to bite off my tongue to keep me from retorting, just as insensitively,”i do have God in my heart. i just dont have your God in my heart.” am i supposed to wallow in the dirt coz i am not a Christian?? i do have Christian friends. we understand each other’s religious practices so, when we eat together, i wait for them to say their Grace before we start eating. they would not ask if i want to try their beef steak. in fact, when we eat steamboat, they would not even cook beef in the pot coz they noe i love to drink soup. we could also accept it when suddenly, out of reflexes, go “Praise the Lord!”. or, if reglion is not mentioned, no one evangelise or criticise other people’s religions. they are able to accept the fact that people are all different.

but there is this group of people belonging to a particular faith who are fanatic about their faith. they would also love to “share” the joys of their faith with you, even if they do not know you. even if you tell them frankly that you already have a faith and you are happy. some of the more obnoxious ones would question your ability to judge whether you are really happy when you dont have Christianity in your heart. the real bigoted ones would tell you in the face that you are stupid to have chosen the wrong faith. i am not exaggerating. i once met a lady who told me that, when i was in my impressionable teens.

i attended church services with friends about twice. i watched a hindu religious ceremony @ the waterloo street temple before. i celebrate Hari Raya with my University malay friends. my friends @ church did not expect me to participate in their prayers. the lady at the hindu temple explained to me the purpose of their ceremony without passing comments about my religion. my malay friends was sensitive not to prepare any beef items at the party. i even wanted to learn malay. this is the type of religion mutual respect i enjoy. i seriously wonder what are the churches of these people doing that someone in their congregation could actually passing such insensitive comments nonchalantly. its almost scary.

i have nothing against any faith or religion. i am just against insensitive bigots who does not seemed to understand the concept of mutual respect.


*在新加坡的某一办公室*
同事:yl啊,你是不是教徒?
我: 不是。
同事: 为什么你那么开心呢?
我: 嗯,因为我选择要开心。
同事: 你时常得加班,但是你还是很活泼。你真好。快乐,谦虚,努力。只可惜你心中没有神。
我: ???
*我已被她的话惊得哑口无言了*
当时,为了不想有无畏的争端,我差点儿把自己的舌头咬下来。否则,我一定会回答她:“我心中是有神。只是我心中没有你的神。”听她的语气,似乎就因为我不是教徒就没有快乐的权利。我结交了许多的教徒朋友。我们了解彼此的宗教信仰与礼节。所以当我们一块用餐时,我们都会等教徒们祷告完了才开始用餐。而他们也不会问我是否要尝尝他们的牛排。当我们吃火锅时,他们也绝对不会烫牛肉,就因为他们知道我爱喝汤。我们也能接受有时脱口而出的一句:感谢上帝!或者,如果没人提起宗教,不会有人传教或批评别人的宗教。他们都能接受大家的不同。不过就有一些人,特别虔诚。他们很喜欢和别人分享自己的宗教信仰的乐趣,就算你完全不认识他们。甚至但你对他们说你已有宗教信仰而也很开心。有些无理头的更会质问你是否真的开心,尤其是如果你不是教徒?很无礼的会当面说你好笨,相信了错误的宗教!我没有夸张。曾经就有人这么对我说。当时侯,我还是个十多岁的学生。

我曾和朋友一同参加教会礼拜。我曾在旁观看过星度宗教仪式。我有和马来朋友庆祝开斋节。当我们在教堂时,他们没有要求我参加他们的宗教仪式。星度庙的妇女解释他们宗教仪式过程时也没有批评任何宗教。我的马来朋友不会在聚会时准备牛肉。我还想学马来语。这是我享受的宗教和谐。我真的很怀疑那些人所属的教堂教了他们什么??居然能让他们若无其事地说无这么无礼的话!太可怕了!

我对任何宗教没有怨言,只是对一些无礼偏执的人的行为失望。他们似乎不能理解互相宗教的重要性。

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