Andy Lau ~ 刘德华

Andy Lau is an artiste I admire in my younger days. Got to know there is an artiste called Andy Lau because of Jin Yong’s Condor Heros where he appeared as Yang Guo. Honestly, I took efforts to learn how to read traditional Chinese because of Jin Yong and Andy Lau.

As I grew older, my attitudes towards idolizing matures. When this issue first came up, I thought it was a tad unbecoming of Andy Lau. Of course artistes are entitled to their privacy and they are not obligated to disclose their personal relationship. But I thought since this issue has been so clearly OUTed, why act secretive and have a funny “umbrella formation”, making it a media circus?

As a woman looking at Madam Chu’s situation, I sympathize her even though I do not know her personally. In our society, the value of a woman depreciates greatly as she ages. Regardless of what excellent results a woman produces, as long as she is considered “over the top” in her age, she would depreciate. Demeaning terms to describe women in this category are aplenty. Such is the cruelty of the society. To be able to trust and be so supportive of a man, Madam Chu is indeed a very generous woman. Hers is a very bittersweet happiness. To the court side observer, Madam Chu’s situation is much better than Madam Lin’s. At least for her many years of devotion had a very obvious results, and not a heartless “I have committed the mistake that all the men in the world would commit!”

Perhaps this is one of the reason why Andy Lau is so protective and devoted to this relationship. For a woman to put in so much of her precious youth in exchange for the unknown, she has to have a lot of courage, trust and generosity towards the other party.

Madam Chu’s extended family should be rather traditional. All these years, she must have endured a significant amount of pressure from her traditional family and the general society. Unwed pregnancy(one daughter?), a total lack of title, she is in a situation where she is more “unseem” than an illicit mistress.

In Asia, when a man has an affair, it is mostly a hush hush matter where everyone knows but no one is going to discuss about it. This makes Madam Chu’s predicament even more awkward. Who am I? Not a typical love relationship, not a wife, not a mistress, not a normal friend, she doesn’t make it into any of the categories. She is really very courageous, confident and generous in seeking the love she wants and thankfully, her devotion is well worth it.

This is perhaps an affirmation of the Andy Lau brand. She trusted Andy Lau back then to put in so many years of her youth. The passing of old Mr Chu gave Andy Lau a chance to prove himself worthy of her love and devotion. He could have refused to participate in Old Mr Chu’s funeral, citing reasons that he is a public figure and his appearence would affect the proceedings of the funeral. But he did not. Respect.

My heartiest congratulations to them. Cherish each other.

刘德华是我小时候很喜欢的一位艺人。知道有刘德华这个人是因为金庸的《神雕侠侣》。刘德华饰演杨过。老实说,我会读繁体字也是因为金庸和刘德华的双重影响。

随着年龄的增长,对偶像态度逐渐理智,不再如前的那么疯狂。本来对刘德华的事件是觉得他很不应该。不错,感情生活应该是艺人的私事,不需要向任何人报告。但是我觉得既然当时事情已经是摆得很明白了,就只缺“证据”,那又何必故作神秘,摆个什么“雨伞阵”,把长辈的丧礼搞得象个闹剧一般呢?

从一个女人看朱丽倩的处境而言,尽管我不认识她本尊,但是我很心疼朱丽倩。在这个社会,女人的价值一直都是随着年龄的增加而贬值的。不管条件多么优异的女人,似乎年龄一过了“黄金期”就是身份贬值的开始。给过了“黄金期”女人的贬义词也特别多。这是社会的残忍。能如此信任与支持一个男人,朱女士真的是很大方。她的恋情带有苦涩的幸福。冷眼旁观可以肯定一点:朱女士比林女士来得幸福多了。至少她多年的付出有一定显著的回报,而不是换来残忍一句:“我犯了全天下男人都会犯的错!”。

这或许也是朱女士为什么值得刘德华如此呵护与付出的原因之一吧!要一个女人这样“荒废”青春来换取当时看不到的任何明显结果,确实需要勇气与对对方有很大的信任。

朱女士应该来自一个相当传统与保守的家庭。这些年来应该也面对家族与社会所给的一定压力。未婚先孕(听说是有一女儿了),毫无身份,甚至可以说自己是得要比黑市夫人还要“黑市”。

男人金屋藏娇很多时候是大家心知肚明,不说明白而已。但朱女士这些年来的身份是尴尬之极的。算是什么?不算男女朋友,不算元配,不算情妇,不算普通朋友,似乎她哪一栏都放不上名字。她真的很勇敢,很自信,也很大方地去追求自己要的爱,也庆幸她的付出是值得的。

这或许也是对刘德华的一种肯定,是一种“品质保证”。她当年信任了刘德华,而朱老先生的过世也让刘德华有机会证明给朱女士知道:您的付出,没有白费。毕竟刘德华大可以自己是公众人物,若参与会影响丧礼的进行为理由,拒绝参与丧礼。但是他并没有这么做。敬。

祝福他们。珍惜此缘分。

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